the elephant in the room.
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The blogosphere is a funny place of polished images, carefully chosen stories, and spit-shined life stories. We write, we post photographs, and we even occasionally "keep it real." I shudder to think that I too often sound like "y'all, I'm totally keeping it real…I haven't been to yoga in 3 weeks, I've stopped at Starbucks every day (twice), and I bought NON-ORGANIC apples. Please don't hate me!" As my kids would say…first world problems.
So. Hang onto your pinot noir. As my kids would also say…sh*t's about to get real. I've dropped hints. I've skirted around. And I'm exhausted by the careful avoidance. Let's just talk about the elephant in the room:
I am getting a(nother) divorce. Rob moved out. And we are all okay.
I can't say that this is a journey that I never expected to take. I've gotten far too honest with myself for that fairytale nonsense. The only explanation that I owe is to myself, my children, and the person that I've spent the past 17 years with. For everyone else (including YOU, dear reader)…
*Know that we love our family fiercely. We believe that marriage can end without family ending.
*Know that I will welcome love, support, and Starbucks giftcards…and I will dismiss criticism. Insert some wisdom about those living in glass houses here.
*Know that Rob and I both believe that we can move through this time with kindness & grace. I'm better at it some days than others…but I try really hard.
*Know that I owe a crazy huge debt to the village that supports me on a daily basis. They (virtually & in person) wipe my tears, listen to my struggles, give me hope, and tell me to wear eye shadow. I hope that you're lucky enough to have peeps like mine.
*Know that for any/every disparaging thought that you're thinking about me? I've thought about myself…at least twice daily. Save your energy. I've got that covered.
I've spent A LOT of time in lovingkindness meditation lately.
May I/you/all living beings be happy.
May I/you/all living beings be healthy.
May I/you/all living beings live with ease.
Namaste, friends. xoxo
22 Comments
lisa wood
Sending big hugs and SO much love your way. I’m here for you if you need a shoulder or an ear to bend… or a starbucks buddy.
justem
who is sending you disparaging thoughts? i will find that person and show them the light. 😉
personally, i am sending you the love and support you should already know you have, but in case you aren’t sure after my “no comment” p&g comment yesterday – it’s here. it’s big. it’s real and it’s for YOU.
proud of you, and proud to call you my friend. 🙂
Lindsey
Sending you lots of love, Katrina. xox
sarah
sending you lots of virtual hugs and love. and in 78 days i will treat you to a delicious cup of stumptown coffee in downtown portland.
xo.
Jen Tapler
I think you’re amazing. Sending you and your entire family tons of positive energy as you all work through this transition.
gabby
you, my dear, are one tough and amazing lady.
and real– really real, not just i skipped yoga for three weeks real. 😉
no one should ever levy judgement on someone else’s experiences. that makes me crazy for you. sigh.
i know from the times i’ve been here and emailed with you how fiercely you love your family. how devoted and loyal and incredible you are. you will get through this– with your village and some starbucks and knowing that you are oh so loved and respected.
wish i could be at stumptown coffee-ing with you all.
xoxoxo.
Barb
Oh, Katrina.
A great big hug for you.
josie
You are a strong woman who I know loves your family dearly – only you know what is best for you and your family!
Hugs and love and support to you during this transition.
“We all live with the objective of being happy; our lives are all different and yet the same.”
Jennifer O.
Wishing you the best as you go through this difficult transition in your life.
Beth
big hugs. shift. gently.
Steph
You, my friend, are a tough cookie. A cookie of the organic HFCS free variety of course. Hang in there and know the ventage girls will always be there for you.
Karman
Be kind to yourself, no one is perfect.
Louise Fortune
Katrina – tough decisions, only you know what is right . . .
I hope that this makes life better for all concerned
Tracy and Aaron
seriously? anyone who is judging you needs to have their head examined! you are love personified to all who know you . . . keep on being so!
colleen
heart to you, my jelly man and hopey
libbywilko
Sending you big hugs and I hope you keep your positivity wrapped around you to block any of those negative thoughts! Be happy.
Dianne
Just reading this post. So sorry to hear. Can’t believe anyone would try to make you feel bad about this. Just from reading your posts, I think you are probably tougher on yourself than anyone else could ever be. So be gentle with yourself lady! This too shall pass. Hopefully putting the news “out there” is one small step toward making things easier.
Katherine Ware
Sending tons of lovingkindness your way, Katrina, and peace to deal with this rough transition. You need a starbucks card? I’m your gal!! just email me your address!! Namaste, sweet friend!
Niki
Big hugs to you. I think your amazing. Sending you positive energy to lift you up and get you through, one day at a time.
Erin Clayton
Big hugs to you. You are an amazingly strong woman.
Billie
You know the real deal…cause you made that elephant — beautiful!
Big hugs my friend, peace, love and light for all of you.
Billie
AmySo
Katrina, was just catching up on your blog and just wanted to add my support to all those peeps who are taking care of you! I hope the process goes smoothly as possible for you and that the scar tissue is minimal. Hugs!